King David loved his son – Absalom – more than his life


Have you ever heard about the story of King David and Absalom? Have you ever received unfailing and infinite love? We are taken good care of by our parents, father and mother when we are sick or get into troubles. They don’t hesitate to sacrifice instead of us and cease to love us even though we aren’t aware of this. Likewise, David loved his son Absalom more than his life.

Sometimes we don’t recognize the depth of their love and sacrifice, for we are busy. But our parents love us much more than we do. And that they never change their mind and turn away from us. Our parents are always with us and give everlasting love. Just as physical parents love us like this, our spiritual parents – God – always comfort my mind and lead me to the best and the safest way. It is true love.

There is a story of the King David and his son, Absalom, expressing the father’s mournful love toward the son in the Bible. Through this story, we can exactly understand why God testified the King David as ‘a man after His own heart’


David and Absalom – The heartbreaking parental love story like unrequited love


Absalom, who was loved by David.

Absalom was born as the third son of the king David. He was very beautiful and flawless. It was said that he was the most beautiful in the Israel and wise. (2 Sam14:25)

He had committed sin to David, but was once forgiven. However, after that, David continuously refused to meet him. So Absalom set fire to the field of Joab who was favored by the king David so that Joab would visit his house, and Absalom persuaded Joab to bring him in front of the king David. In the eyes of father, how lovely he looked! Therefore, David gave lots of privileges to him.


Absalom killed Ammon

Ammon-and-Tammar | David and Absalom
Ammon-and-Tammar | David and Absalom


Ammon, son of David, fell in love with Tamar, the beautiful younger sister of Absalom who is half brother of Ammon.

Ammon had planned to raped Tamar and he did. So Absalom decided to revenge. When Ammon was invited to his house, he made his men to kill him.

Listen to parents’ voice. While raising children, all of the parents want their children to get along well with each other. They feel not happy if their children fight each other. For David, how sorrowful to heard his sons kill another. King David wept so bitterly and his mind was filled with miserableness.

Absalom lived away from the King David for three years. So King David no longer disliked Absalom. (2 Samuel 13) King David finally forgave Absalom with love of a father.



David and Absalom – Absalom revolted against David, his Father!


Absalom gradually revealed his ambition. He prepared chariots and horses for himself and tried to get popularity of people by name-dropping the king David. Because He had already attracted attention of people, to be the king of Israel, he proceeded the plans to kill his father, David. Absalom set up stratagem to take father’s men to the Hebron where David was anointed, to be the King of Israel and Abraham had hold a memorial service for God. And pretending to hold a memorial service for God, he had a coronation. After that he made Achitophel, who was a man of wisdom and adviser of David, to help him. Finally he defeated David and then he entered Jerusalem.



David and Absalom – David fled from Jerusalem


To escape from Absalom, David fled from Jerusalem in a hurry. Like people show their own colors in times of crisis. In the time of crisis, David commanded his faithful friend, Hushai to go back to Jerusalem as a messenger. It might have been dangerous because Absalom could have made Hushai spy for him. After all, everything went well as much as David expected.

Though David had strong trust and infinite love for his son Absalom, he was betrayed.

That, Alas, It was inevitable thing!



The final battle of David and Absalom and the death of Absalom.

death of Absaolm | David and Absalom
Death of Absaolm

David regrouped for the battle in Mahanaim and ordered the great general, Joab to fight with Absalom. David wanted to participate in the battle, but the soldiers didn’t want it.

By listening to their words, David instructed the generals and his people as follows:

Sam 18:5 The king commanded Joab, Abishai and Ittal, “Be gentle with the young man Absalom for my sake.” And all the troops heard the king giving orders concerning Absalom to each of the commanders.

Hearing his orders, they couldn’t understand David’s command. “Be gentle to Absalom”, who tried to kill his father.

However, Joab, the general of David, broke the command when he saw Absalom hanging on a branch of a big tree because of his plentiful and coarse hair. Finally Joab killed Absalom.




O my son Absalom! My son, my son Absalom!


I would have died instead of you

When the messenger brought the news of the battle, David didn’t want to know anything but Absalom’s safety.

2 Sam 18:28 Then Ahimaaz called out to the king, “All is well!” He bowed down before the king with his face to the ground and said, “Praise be to the LORD your God! He has delivered up the men who lifted their hands against my lord the king.” The king asked, “Is the young man Absalom safe?”…

2 Sam 18:32 The king asked the Cushite, “Is the young man Absalom safe?”…

David had no interest in the battle. At that moment, Absalom was the only interest.

2 Sam 18:33 The king was shaken. He went up to the room over the gateway and wept. As he went, he said: “O my son Absalom! My son, my son Absalom! If only I had died instead of you? O Absalom, my son, my son!”

David Mourned.

David Mourning for Absalom

We don’t need any explanations to know David’s feeling since the Bible describes the love of David for his son. In this story, we can figure out how much he loved his son. As he loved Absalom much more than his own life, he said like that “If only I had died instead of you”. He wailed for his son’s death, although his son aimed to kill him. David was only concerned about his son during battle against enemies. Absalom was everything to him. We are able to realize parents’ love through this story.




Christ’s true love through the story of David and Absalom

Acts 13:22 New International Version (NIV)

22 After removing Saul, he made David their king. God testified concerning him: ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart; he will do everything I want him to do.’

God said that David is “a man after His own heart” in the Bible. The reason is that the mind of David and God is same. In other words, God wanted to express His mind to us to know that He really loves us more than His life.


As you know, we are sinners from heaven. We are expelled from the Heaven. By the result of our sin which broke the law of heaven and tried to kill God. (Ge. 2:7~, Rev. 12:7, Isa. 14:12, Ez. 28:11) To compensate for our sin, Christ has come to this earth to save us. He was willing to be crucified compensation for our sin. His mind is the same as David, “If only I had died instead of you.”


Actually I am nothing in this world, but I am the most precious existence to God more than the whole universe. So He came to the Earth to save us.

We cannot describe the love and grace of Christ who has come to this earth only for our salvation.


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21 thoughts on “David and Absalom – How much Christ loves us

  1. so moved When David told that ” I would died instead of you loved his son.” as parents.
    I never thought God is our parents. I thought God is Almighty and fear God.
    It made me happy and feel being loved by God as parents love children.
    Thanks to God.

  2. Very touching. I didnt know the details of king David’s love. And i also realize about God’s love for us. Though Absalom sinned to his father David, David always loved him and concerned about him. Like this God always loves us and concerned about us eventhough we sinned to God. Im so thankful to be loved by God.

  3. I ve thought God always love me but I never have thought God is our Parents. thru David I came to think God is my parents like my physical parents. I cannot count how God’s heart is bitten but I can just imagine .. My parents always trust me no matter what happen to me and always forgive me though I make troubles. king David is famous for loving God, but this is new to me about his son absalom.

  4. We are receiving a great and endless love from God! Even though we are sinner, God loves us and came to the earth in flesh for seeking us. He walked the hard way for giving us the eternal life. Because If he didn’t this, we have no way to go back to heaven. I really thanks to Christ Ahnsahnghong and God the Mother who are our spiritual parents and are giving us a boundless love.

  5. Through this story, i can realize how much Crist loves us. He beared the shame and punishment that we sinners will deserve. I will give thanks to You forever.

  6. “If only I had died instead of you”
    Even though Absalom tried to kill David, He doesn’t matter about that. He just concerned only to his son.
    It’s the same to our Heavenly Father Ahnsahnghong’s love. He has come to this earth even though He knew all the path He had to walk only for saving His sons and daughters. I give all thanks and glories to His great love.

  7. I felt Christ truly loves us throuth the strory of David and Absalom. I can’t imagine David’s love for Absalom. How can he love the son who tried to have him killed? Even he said “If only I had died instead of you.” when he heard Absalom’s death. I’m so sorry that i only think about myself not Father and Mother who love me. I truly thanks to Father and Mother all my heart.

  8. Through this story, i can realized how much Christ loves us. He bears the shame and punishment that we sinners will deserve. I will give thanks to You forever.

  9. While reading this story, I had a thought that David is really a generous, loving father. Even though Absalom was trying to take the throne of David and kill him, David still loved his son. And I am so thankful to God that through this we could know the great love of God who forgave my sin and came to this earth in the flesh to save us. I can say I am so blessed because God saved me and allowed me to receive salvation though I am just a grievous sinner who tried to kill God in heaven. Thanks to God the father and God the mother for giving me the chance to go back to heaven.

  10. What a moving story! David’s keen affection towards Absalom was heartbreaking for me.
    And It also was very moving God loves us like that. God loved us and willingly sacrificed Himself for us while we were still sinners who deserve to die, not to be loved by Him.
    I can’t imagine how much God loves us!

  11. There are no words to express the love and sacrifice our Father and Mother has given us. I am so grateful, to be Their child, even though I lack in many ways. As how, we are everything to Them. Father and Mother is everything to us because we are nothing without Them.

  12. According to the bible , Everything in this earth is shadow and samples of heaven. So, we should realize elohim gods’s love through story of king david and son absalom even through our real life. Our god always show us great love toward us through bible. In this era, we have to recognize the great and sacrificed love of 2nd coming jesus christ Anh sang hong and heavenly mother through this lessons.

  13. It is likely to be human nature that when we talk about ‘the love of parents’, we feel emotionally warmhearted and love, and sometimes heartbroken. Parents pour their love on us in any circumstances and never reject us, even our fault. And they support us and hold us firmly with deeper affection.
    While reading this article, I realize that what David is like and how much Christ love us. Only what I know about David is that ‘he was only a boy, ruddy and handsome’ (1Sam17:42). However after he became A father of children, he showed his unlimited love toward his son Absalom. In the same manner Christ has shown His endless and boundless love toward us, grievous sinners, until now by laying down His life to redeem us and give eternal salvation to be the royal priesthood in heaven.
    How deep and wide and high His love is, and it is inexpressible!

  14. I felt so shamed now. While reading, I thought Absalom was so bad. But, actually, I’m not different from him. I betrayed God in heaven and came to this earth as a sinner. So… I don’t deserve to blame Absalom.
    Also, it’s very touching the story of King David as Father. I have known King David only as a 2nd king in Israel until now. Since I realized that I received greater love from Christ than Absalom, I will try to repay to the grace of Heavenly Parents. I will never be like Absalom who didn’t turn back to his father. Thanks to God for giving me this realization.

  15. The Prophetic David, the Second Coming Christ, Father Ahnsahnghong also still loves us who’ve ever tried to rebel against HIm like Absalom. He’s saying ” Oh my son, my son, my poor son…”.

  16. It is very touching.
    I can feel how David loved Absalom.
    And through this I can realize how Christ loves us and has pity on us, sinners.
    I give thanks to God with my whole heart.

  17. Through King David and Absalom, I can realize about God’s Love for our heavenly sinners. We can’t measure the Love of God.

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